So if we know this, we might consider telling them things that are useful. You are what you eat- you also believe and can turn out to be what you hear.
Consider the phrase "good job". Oy, if I had a dollar for every time I've uttered it... and for the times students in turn told me, or themselves "Good job". It's one of those useless phrases that really doesn't help a child identify what is going on that is allowing them to be successful and "earning" them that "good job". It also doesn't really help them think about what is going on... or what to do next time.
Now consider these phrases...
"Wow- you're trying so hard to get that lace through."
"You chose so many different colors."
"Yeah, you really like choosing the red one."
"That must be your favorite."
"It's so much easier when you do it like that."
"Well that worked much better!"
"You never gave up."
"You stuck to it."
If we know children repeat and internalize what we say, aren't be getting much more bang for our buck if what we are saying is something we'd like them to internalize, would like them to repeat to themselves and own?
Next week we'll do Part 2! Thinking more about how we can give kids opportunities to "borrow our brain" and decision making.