As a follow up the Always Never/Rule, it's great to refresh some of the ideas of Ross Greene...
Here he discusses the philosophy that we act from. Do we see children as "Kids do well if they wanna?" or "Kids do well if they can?"
It's quite a paradigm shift from what is popular.
"My approach to intervention is rooted in respect for child development and focuses on making the mundane meaningful, looking at daily interactions as opportunities for learning and growth while respecting the uniqueness of the individual and family. It’s about setting high expectations for long term quality of life and relationships for individuals on the spectrum and implementing a specific and doable plan to get there one step at a time.”
– Lauren Wilson, LCSW, RDI® Program Certified Consultant